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4 Tips for a Online Relationships

Dating can bring anxiety to some people, but the onset of online dating has made it much easier and simpler for singles to date with other singles without much stress.

Online dating has many similarities with real dating and even has some advantages. Here is a 4-step guide to online dating.

  1. Find a good dating website Finding an online dating website is very simple. You just need to go to Google and type the keyword online dating and you will get a number of websites in search results. You can visit and of them and get registered but it is advisable that you do a little research before registering so that you can make the optimum use of your time and money. After registration it is very simple to browse through the website and search for singles in your suitable domain. For example, if you want to search for a Christian single male less than 25 years of age just select the “Christian” domain and set the age limit to 25 and browse through the profiles which will be displayed. You can also filter the results based on your preferences like smoker/non-smoker, divorced, with/without children etc.
  2. Be Careful With the level of interaction that online dating provides, It is easy to get close to someone with whom you talk frequently and you will be much less inhibited than face-to-face dating. Therefore, you should keep your guard up. You don’t know much about the person on the other side. Someone claiming to be a 21-year old girl can be a middle-aged man having his share of fun with you. Never disclose your confidential information and always think twice before trusting someone
  3. Be honest and never tell lie If you expect others to be honest with you, you should be honest with others too. Never tell a lie regarding you age, location, educational background etc. Remember that truth will be known in the later stages of your online relationships and then you will be portrayed a liar and cheat which can make all your efforts useless. So it is better to abstain from lies while you are on an internet based dating service
  4. Don’t be desperate to commit Never commit to someone whom you know only through internet even if you feel bonded or intimate with that person. Online dating is a great way to know about each other till you take your relationship to next level. You should proceed further with the relationship when you take it to the real world.

Are Online Relationships Better Than Offline Ones?

In the era of internet, human relationships can be broadly classified into two categories — online and offline. Online is where a couple meets via the internet such as matrimonial or social networking websites.

And offline is when they interact on a one-on-one basis. There is an ongoing debate about which medium is better. In this article, we look at the pros and cons of both.

Advantages of Online

  • One of the biggest advantages here is that distance is no barrier for this medium. One can develop a bond with almost anybody residing in any corner of the world. The choices are aplenty.
  • Secondly, such associations are asynchronous. You can think well before writing or saying anything. There is no urgency to reply instantly when faced with important issues. This helps in avoiding many awkward situations.
  • Thirdly, these types of interactions are a boon for introverts. Some individuals cannot express themselves well in person, but are good with written words. Texting can help them in expressing ideas effectively and distinctly, because they are often at loss for words in face-to-face communication.
  • Fourthly, they dwell on intellect and common interests. Physical appearance doesn’t matter much.
  • Lastly, one can decide the limits of their interaction. If you meet someone on the internet, it is up to you to decide whether you want to meet them personally or not.

Disadvantages of Online

  • One of the biggest disadvantages is the lack of physicality. The person on the other side may be sick, hurt, or suffering. All you can do is watch helplessly and console them with words.
  • Second disadvantage is generally there is little faith in the feasibility of such associations because there is less seriousness and responsibility.
  • Lastly, there is a greater chance of being misunderstood. Voice intonation and facial expressions that allow for conveying the correct message across are missing in web-based communication.

Advantages of Offline

  • One of the biggest advantages of this medium is when a partner needs help, one can do more than just comfort with words.
  • The second advantage is intimacy, which can be easier and intense when a couple has in-person interactions.
  • Thirdly, on the internet, there is a greater possibility that somebody may be lying about their looks, age, and stuff. In real life, physical appearance is right there in front of us, therefore, there is no question of deceit.
  • Finally, the end goal of any relationship is a real life bond. You can get married through the internet, but eventually the couple needs to meet.

Disadvantages of Offline

  • In real life connections, a person tends to become finicky and judgmental about unimportant things leading to friction between the partners.
  • Also, when things go sour, it can be a little difficult to handle upfront. In case, you are stuck with an abusive partner, emotionally or physically, it will be much harder to live with it or to get away from it. It is much easier to deal with such stuff on the web; one can do so by just blocking that person or signing off.

Online Relationships

Online dating has both advantages and disadvantages and you need to weigh them in light of your reality so that you can decide if this something that you want to invest your time and emotions in.

The advantages are;
a. One of the greatest advantages of online dating is the variety that is available at your fingertips. There are sites catering to every taste and persuasion and you can specifically search for the type of relationship and man that you want. The beauty lies in the fact that you can specify what you want in terms of faith, geographical location, race, age group, how much he earns etc; and you can also get an idea of what the man looks like from his profile picture (or pictures). It’s wonderful….like a supermarket shelf full of men!
b. Another advantage of online dating is that it is non- threatening. It is so much easier to write to a stranger that you met online then to walk up to the same guy at the supermarket and start a conversation. It is so much less threatening if he turns you down online compared to when he turns you down face-to-face. I don’t know why but it just is.
c. The conversation flows so much more easily with an online relationship as opposed to face-to-face dating. For some reason our inhibitions drop and we are able to write and to come across as smarter or funnier then when we are face to face. I guess the fact that you don’t have to deal with his physical presence allows you to concentrate on only writing, giving you some really good results (so to speak).
d. An online relationship progresses much faster than a traditional relationship since we have a tendency to share much more as we are inclined to spend a lot more time online with each other. Even when we are doing something else we can keep in touch and are able to share with him throughout the day. This builds a sense of intimacy very quickly.

The disadvantages are;
a. Sham people! The greatest danger of online dating is that you are really open to being conned. An experienced conman can take advantage of you especially because your constant communication gives you the illusion that you really know him. You need to remember that ‘who he presents himself as’ is not always ‘who he really is says he’. Of course this can also happen with a guy you met at the supermarket but it is magnified with online dating. His whole profile could be a forgery while if you had met him in the traditional way, you would at least know what he looks like physically. The problem here is that all the information you have about him has come from him…as the relationship progresses you will need to find information about him from other sources. Being careful to ensure that these are sources which he cannot manipulate.

The beauty of online dating is the variety, how anonymous it is and the freedom that it affords but these same attributes are what make it dangerous. To have a great online relationship the advantages you enjoy because of your special circumstances need to far out-weigh the disadvantage and now that you know the dangers you can take steps to minimize them.

Solidifying Your Online Relationships Effectively

If you own a business (or even if you work for someone else), the foundation of your success (and this applies to everyone around the world) is solid relationships with the people who you eventually want to buy what you are selling. If you have a relationship with someone with whom you spend in-person time, it is often easier than if you have an online relationship with that person.

The necessity to build solid online relationships
When it comes to your social media circles, you probably have hundreds (or even thousands) of online connections among the various social media channels of which you belong. People ask to connect with you and you ask to connect with other people. Before you know it, you have built up a significant list of connections. The question is whether you are truly connected to those people and exactly what your connection with them is.

There is no doubt that having a strong and prominent online presence will be very good for you professionally. If you have that, other people will start to pay attention to your brand and your offerings. They will start to notice what you stand for and they will want to connect with you and interact with you if what you believe and what you write resonate with them. In many cases, those online connections are not local to you (geographically speaking). If you want to get to know those people, the only way to do it is online. The truth is that having a relationship with someone online is very different from having an in-person relationship with a person. In many respects, online takes a lot more effort.

How to begin
If you are in a situation where your only option is an online relationship, you may not know where to start. Well, first of all, you need to start interacting in some way. A great way to get the ball rolling is by sharing valuable, well-written, helpful content with the other person. You may not have a clear understanding from the start about the issues that the other person is experiencing. If that is the case, it will most likely be revealed shortly. That is definitely the approach that you will want to take in your online relationship with that person.

You should be driven by the concept of “WIIFM?” (What’s In It For Me?) In other words, no matter how wonderful, knowledgeable, and effective you and your business are, if you are not able to solve the other person’s problems, don’t even bother to attempt to build a relationship with the other person. The good news is that you can probably accomplish that and the other person will never forget what you did for him or her. That is exactly how a solid, meaningful relationship begins. If you happen to be close to each other geographically, you may have a relationship that is a mix of online and in-person. However, if not, don’t worry about it. You can still have a meaningful relationship that will endure and that is mutually beneficial.

The chances are really good that once you have posted relevant, meaningful content, the other person will react to that content in some way. If you post an article, the person may wish to share some thoughts.

Another way to jump start the interaction is by posing a thought-provoking question. That is an excellent way to get other people to respond. It can lead to an animated, extremely stimulating discussion and it may also be a wonderful source for ideas for future postings. That should be a part of your overall strategy.

Quality over quantity
Let’s discuss LinkedIn as an example. Maybe you have 500 connections on LinkedIn. If you sustain that number but you actually only have a relationship with 10% of that number, what good does the 90% do for you or for your business? You are better off having a relationship with a number of people that is closer to reality. If you are connected to 50 people and you interact with all 50 people regularly (or even semi-regularly), that is saying a great deal. You are doing well in that case. Of course, that number is only an example. You should connect with a comfortable number of people. After all, you want to retain that number. Some of those relationships may be in-person and some may be online. As long as you put in the effort to continue the relationship in each case, it doesn’t matter how you interact with those people.

Your online relationships are just as important as your in-person relationships. They require the same amount of time and effort and you will get back just as much as you put in. Online relationships will drive a lot of your business and you will begin to see that there is no obstacle in the way just because you don’t see the person face to face. As long as you are genuine, sincere, and you connect with the other person on an emotional level, you will enjoy a successful relationship together. Also, if your strategy is solid and relevant, you will succeed with all of the relationships that you choose to develop.

Michael Cohn is the founder and Chief Technology Officer (CTO) of CompuKol Communications. He has over 25 years of experience in IT and web technologies. Mr. Cohn spent a significant amount of time at a major telecommunications company, where his main focus was on initiating and leading synergy efforts across all business units by dramatically improving efficiency, online collaboration, and the company’s Intranet capabilities, which accelerated gains in business productivity. He also reduced company travel and travel costs by introducing and implementing various collaboration technologies.

His expertise includes business analysis; project management; management of global cross-matrix teams; systems engineering and analysis, architecture, prototyping and integration; technology evaluation and assessment; systems development; performance evaluation; and management of off-shore development.

Building Lasting Relationships for the Online Retailer

As a consumer, I want to be treated with respect from retailers I regularly purchase from. I also want to feel as if I matter to them, and I am not just one more registered customer or identified by an order number making purchases. As a business owner, it is important to recognize that customers today have a positive and meaningful relationship with their brands of choice, shop frequently, and they use this sense of comfort to make recommendations to their friends and family.

Sadly, the clear majority of retailers today are far behind when it comes to recognizing that building these relationships is paramount to online business success. Never underestimate the power of people. As business owners, especially eCommerce retailers, we need to work on building intimate relationships with our customers. Purchasing from an online retailer has the downside of no human interaction, and while some are okay with the impersonal relations of today’s cyber world, many others want to feel special. How can we override this? How can we cybernetically replace the smiling face of a cashier or a sales person? How do we reward our customers for being faithful to our brand? Simple: pamper your customers.

Buying from your online store should make customers feel special, should leave them with an overall sense of “I love this place,” and a deep desire to come back to support your brand and continue shopping because they liked what they saw, what they bought, and how smooth the process was. To build a solid relationship, retailers must treat it no different that developing relationship with your friends and family: is there passion, commitment, and intimacy.

When looking at passion, retailers should see it in terms of enthusiasm for your brand, your values as a company, and your products. Commitment to a retailer is based on the loyalty that customers have for your brand and the prospect of their returning to make more purchases. When looking at intimacy, retailers must measure the disposition of their customers to share information and how interested they are in learning more information about your brand. When looking to create solid, deeply devoted relationships with customers, retailers must look at all three. Why? Because devoted shoppers will support their favorite brands by recommending them to family and friends, which fosters intimacy, passion, and commitment.

The question is how do we, as retailers, encourage growth and intimacy with our customers. Well, first you must figure out why you are not progressing towards those devoted relationships. Are you rewarding your customers? How about a surprise? Customers love surprises and it helps build intimacy. Are you properly communicating with your customers? Are your marketing and promotional materials conveying your message accurately? Are you treating your customers with respect? Do they trust you? All these matter.

Anyone who has had a meaningful lasting relationship in their lives knows that passion, commitment, and intimacy are paramount to achieve long-term relations. It works the same way with online retailer/customer relationships. Trust and respect are essential components to build a solid clientele, and crucial for success. Use your tangible life emotional knowledge to help create real brand supporters who are deeply devoted to you because you reward them in return. If you adhere to these practices, you will have happy customers who are eager to advocate for your brand because they feel as if they are part of your family.